The reality is that we are a community who are competing against one another. Like the England and South African rugby teams sharing a couple of beers in the change room, but they're not exactly going to share their respective team strategies and plans for the next test. That's sort of what this forum is like. You're going to get a bit of banter and general chat about the game, but the saucy stuff generally remains in the guild boardroom. So... like I said, best advice I can give is to join a good guild.